Winning the Moment

“Show class, have pride, and display character. If you do, winning takes care of itself”.

Paul “Bear” Bryant

When I decided to clean up my personal life over eighteen years ago, get sober and go back to school, I was unwittingly ‘winning the moment’. That winning moment has led to realizing many life changing opportunities. Becoming a firm believer in self-awareness has become a cornerstone to my life; it has been described by Psychologist Daniel Goleman as a key component to living a fulfilled existence.

Dr. Daniel Goleman is a pioneer in the field of ‘Emotional Intelligence’ and his book of the same title published in 1995 has sold over 5 million copies and been translated into over 40 languages. He has written over nine books and the Harvard Business Review called Emotional Intelligence— which discounts IQ as the sole measure of one’s abilities — “a revolutionary, paradigm-shattering idea” and chose his article “What Makes a Leader” as one of ten “must-read” articles from its pages. Emotional Intelligence was named one of the 25 “Most Influential Business Management Books” by TIME Magazine.

This book and Dr. Goleman’s lectures and podcasts have been a profound influence in my personal growth and should be considered for anyone looking for a clear change in their lives. Within the specter of ‘Emotional Intelligence’ resides Dr. Goleman’s 12 Core Competencies. They include:

· Emotional- Self-Awareness

· Self-Management- Emotional self-control, adaptability, achievement orientation, and a positive outlook

· Social-Awareness- Empathy and organizational awareness

· Relationship Management- Influence, coach and mentor, conflict management, teamwork and inspirational leadership

To become a better leader, parent, or person, Dr. Goleman suggests working on becoming good at six or more of these competencies. Give yourself better odds of ‘Winning the Moments’ in your life, finding your own personal strengths and weaknesses within his model. Trust, empathy, and communication are keys to building and maintaining relationships.

Leverage your strengths, improve on those weaknesses, it is never too late.

Help yourself, try these-

· Be grateful for small wins

· Manage negative emotions

· Become more optimistic

· Don’t ruminate, reflect

· Resist impulsiveness

· Mindfulness